We make new friends at each and every stage of our life, but does that mean we leave behind those old friends. Whenever we depart, we do so on a note of "keeping in touch". But have we ever asked our selves how often we keep in touch. Today in the times of booming social networking, we surely are able to be on everyones friend lists, see their walls, see them on our chat - list! But how often do we go forward and write a simple "Hi" on their wall or send them a buzz on the chat. Lets say that with social networking we are sure that are friends are alive!! It may sound sarcastic, and very blunt, but deep down in your heart when you introspect do you think that there is any lie in this!
None of us are wise here. Not even me who is writing this blog. We all tend to make this big statement that "I am keeping busy these days so don't get time for keeping in touch." Are we really so busy that we cannot even leave a message on our friend's cell or FB wall. We not only take things, but also relationships for granted and that essentially is the reason for the fall out in most our relationships.
Why are we scared of relationships? We want to tie relationships to ourselves sometimes and sometimes leave it loose? Why?? There is no definite answer to this question. If we have the power to build a relationship, we also have the power to maintain it and take it further. When we make friends we do that with heart and sole, the times we are together we think as we are friends forever, then why is it that the moment we depart the thread starts to break?
We drift apart because we have expectations and that is a very nPreviewatural phenomenon. In any relationship we tend to have many expectations, and when these expectations are not fulfilled it hurts and that is the beginning or drifting apart. It is no way possible to not have expectations, but it is important to understand that the other person also has some expectations from you. You think that he/she has not 'kept in touch', but have you ever made a genuine effort to stay in touch? Blaming others and cribbing about the circumstances is very easy! But having the courage to mend the broken relationships is what requires genuine efforts.
Why do we let relations break? Why don't we step forward and take the charge to mend the relationship? If our friend doesn't "keep in touch", we can keep in touch with them. We can call them, message them, or write them an email or post on their FB wall, this will not even take 2 mins. Can't we spare 2 mins of our entire day just to "keep in touch" with our friends. If we initiate it, maybe they will also respond.
I am no expert on this! But this is just something logical and sensible to do! Its never late to begin! So we begin now! Instead of crying over broken relationships, try to mend them, if may face failure and your heart may break, but at least you wouldn't regret in your life that you did not give chance to that relationship that could have healed!
FORGIVENESS IS THE BIGGEST HEALER!
Why are we scared of relationships? We want to tie relationships to ourselves sometimes and sometimes leave it loose? Why?? There is no definite answer to this question. If we have the power to build a relationship, we also have the power to maintain it and take it further. When we make friends we do that with heart and sole, the times we are together we think as we are friends forever, then why is it that the moment we depart the thread starts to break?
We drift apart because we have expectations and that is a very nPreviewatural phenomenon. In any relationship we tend to have many expectations, and when these expectations are not fulfilled it hurts and that is the beginning or drifting apart. It is no way possible to not have expectations, but it is important to understand that the other person also has some expectations from you. You think that he/she has not 'kept in touch', but have you ever made a genuine effort to stay in touch? Blaming others and cribbing about the circumstances is very easy! But having the courage to mend the broken relationships is what requires genuine efforts.
Why do we let relations break? Why don't we step forward and take the charge to mend the relationship? If our friend doesn't "keep in touch", we can keep in touch with them. We can call them, message them, or write them an email or post on their FB wall, this will not even take 2 mins. Can't we spare 2 mins of our entire day just to "keep in touch" with our friends. If we initiate it, maybe they will also respond.
I am no expert on this! But this is just something logical and sensible to do! Its never late to begin! So we begin now! Instead of crying over broken relationships, try to mend them, if may face failure and your heart may break, but at least you wouldn't regret in your life that you did not give chance to that relationship that could have healed!
FORGIVENESS IS THE BIGGEST HEALER!
2 comments:
hey.. it is nice.. well i like ur language it is so lively....
Its absolutely true... girl in the pink scarf... But interestingly in a study in US it was identified that human brain can handle 170 people at the max at any point and time and out of those the mind space of a hundred is always blocked with family members, and our natural relationships like childhood friends and close pals. Moreover we meet at least 10 new people everyday, which leaves the figure to sixty. as a matter of fact we do stay in touch with "people who matter"... we do text them, write on their wall, send them messages, etc etc... So if you come to think of it.. its something that has to happen.. In todays world of networking... our network multiplies faster than ginni pigs... and unfortunately... none of us are Einsteins..
To write even a hi... means the person has been on your mind and has occupied your mind space...think of the days when you are free.. don't you tend to call up long lost friends.. thats because you have that "10- everyday working contacts" mind space free...
Think... you will start relishing "we will stay in touch" departing notes...
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