Why do people think that if we are not committed to someone in a relationship our lives are dull? Why is it so necessary to have a girlfriend/boyfriend? Are they the means to existence? These are the questions that frequently come in the minds of singles, especially those surrounded by complicated relationship examples of their friends.
In the past so many people have come up to me and asked me whether I was committed or not, when I responded “NO”, they let out a big sigh “Ahhh…” and they would look at me with pity in their eyes. There looks express that I am living a dull and boring life. Well to all those people who think like this I would say a big “NO”! I think that being in a relationship makes your life complicated and what we see in movies and read in Mills and Boons, hardly ever happens in reality. All the girls who think that one day a handsome guy will come riding on a white horse, like their Knight in Shining Armor, to them I would like to say Ladies please wake up, this is far from reality. At this young age we talk about true love. Love has now become so commercialized and casual that the true essence of this word has been lost.
Today anybody and everybody talks about true love. Just because your relationship has survived for more than a year does not make this true love. Words like commitment, faith, trust has all lost its meaning and have become casual words like “hi” and “what’s up”. Love is now put up on sale. Books are written on the various “How to” about relationships. But can we fall in love or maintain a relationship by reading a book? Is it really that simple?
I am not saying that true love does not exist nor am I saying that falling in love is bad. All I am saying is that love has become so overrated. People have lost faith in this charming and enchanting word. This is not anyone’s fault, there are various factors that have led to this situation today, from TV daily soaps, to reality shows, to movies, to books everywhere all you see is love stories. These stories just fascinate you and attract you, but they hold no value in reality.
We have forgotten the difference between love and infatuation, love and friendship, love and attraction. Whenever a girl or boy are seen chatting together why is it that the first question that pops in our mind is “Are they committed to each other?” Why do we presume these things, they can just be friends or they might even be siblings, for all you know. But we wouldn’t ever think about the logical side of this. We would always look at it from the so called “love angle”.
This happens not on our will. We never think before making statements like this, or making presumption about any two people. This happens due to our surroundings, what we see, what we read, what we hear, we subconsciously try to make it factual. This is also one of the reasons for short-lived relationships, I mean how long can you expect your boyfriend to treat you like a princess and give you gifts everyday or how long can you expect your girlfriend to be all head over heels for you. It’s time for a reality check.
There are some relationships that have worked, some which have not. There are some relations that have a future, some whose future is blank. There are some relations which are based on trust, understanding and mutual attraction, some are just for show-off. It isn’t true there all relationships are mere pomp and show, some relationships are genuine, and I have been fortunate to see both the kinds of relationships in my close friend circle. When I look at some relationships I really wonder what the meaning of love or relationship for them is.
We all simply ignore the fact that love is not a term only given to the mutual liking and attraction between two people of opposite gender. Love can be of various forms. Isn’t it love, the feeling we have for our parents? Isn’t it love, the proximity and closeness we share with our brothers & sisters? Isn’t it love, the dedication and trust we have on our god?
Love is indeed the most beautiful feeling that mankind can experience, although it’s losing its charm. It will never lose its charm when you will genuinely fall in love with that perfect person made for you. Something like the match made in heaven.
1 comments:
loved this post absolutely... wish that last para twist in which u fall in your own pit by saying " match made in heaven".. girl u yourself wrote that its time to wake up and not wait for "the knight in shinning Armour"...
genuine love( i mean that love between a man and a women) can be defined as what exists between your mom and dad NOW... complete understanding,sharing of the same responsibilities, mental frequency alignment and above all not just physical attraction...
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